We formed our company with the aspiration to help others enjoy life as we do.  The growing number of people making the choice to explore their fantasies and dreams is growing at an unbelievable rate.  Even so not all people share our values. The problem many of us share is how to keep our choice discreet while trying to meet others. Our goal is to supply timepeices that will help you maximize your experiences while maintaining your need to be discreet.  SwappWatch will be sold only through this site and at certain events listed on our website throughout the year.  Your privacy will be guarded to the highest extent of our capability. Swapp’s reputation will only grow when recognized on the finest of items that our customers will be proud to wear.    Finally – A Classy and Discreet way to meet others! You enjoy a great lifestyle with the many rewards of open and honest relationships.  The only set back typically is the ability to promote your interests discreetly to others who share your values. At work, travel or in your own neighborhood, the number of people who participate and share your lifestyle is growing.  The struggle to meet like-minded new partners is a common frustration. We at Pera Group want to promote general awareness of our lifestyle choice with people around the world who share our enthusiasm. That is why we have developed this exclusive Swapp logo called Érec (Érr-rec) to help you silently be recognized by those who share and respect your passion for living your dreams. Our symbol Érec is named after one of the noble knights from King Arthur's roundtable. The story of Erec and his bride, Enide, is one of romance, honor and wisdom. The symbol incorporates the male sign and female sign joined in unity.  The unity in the symbol represents a couple’s commitment to each other and support for each person’s desire to explore intimate rewarding relationships.  "When discretion means the most"

SwappWatch - The Lifestyle is Everywhere. Today's Alternative Marriage Styles: The Case of Swingers It has yet to be demonstrated empirically whether this alternative lifestyle actually strengthens or weakens marital relationships, but in an era where 37% of husbands and 29% of wives admit to having had at least one extra-marital affair, where divorce rates for first marriages are approaching 60%, and where family instability and parental neglect of children has become a major national concern, any attempt to redefine "love" and strengthen the marital bond is worthy of our attention. If swingers have found a way to stabilize relationships, prolong family ties, and enrich the lives of couples we would be remiss if we did not take their lifestyle and their redefinition of monogamous love seriously. Among swingers, is there a relationship between swinging and marital happiness? Two questions on the survey – one which asked about their relationships before swinging and the other about them after swinging. As the data shows, 62.6% of swingers found that swinging improved their marriages/relationships, 35.6% said their relationships stayed about the same, and only 1.7% said they became less happy. Even among those who said their marriages were "Very Happy" prior to swinging nearly half (49.7%) said they became happier. Among those with the most unhappy marriages 90.4% said their relationship became happier after swinging.  It appears that, at least among the sample of swingers used in this research, swinging tends to improve the perceived quality of the couples' marriages regardless of how satisfying it was before swinging. Excerpted and edited from: Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, Volume 3, Oct. 10, 2000 Swingers 10 Commandments 1. Never attempt to break up a marriage. 2. Always keep dates unless you give ample notice of changing circumstances. 3. Always keep the first meeting on a "no strings attached" basis, but be prepared to swing if it is mutually agreeable or to give an honest answer if something doesn't click. 4. Never, under any circumstances exert pressure on a partner to swing. 5. Restrict discussions of swinging to known swingers and interested persons seeking information. 6. Protect the anonymity of other swingers by refraining from unauthorized "name dropping." 7. Always maintain the highest standards of personal cleanliness and appearance. 8. Do not engage in any unlawful activity that would discredit swingers as a group. 9. Be friendly and warm with your swing partners, but understand that there is a type of emotional involvement, which is properly reserved for a spouse or "primary significant other." 10. Always show respect for the personal attitudes, feelings and "hang-ups" of other swingers. Basic guidelines for the swinging lifestyle: If you are interested in the swinging Lifestyle and you have discussed it with your partner that is great. Especially if that is person is interested & willing to check things out. Never force anyone into doing anything that (he or she) may not be comfortable with. Swinging can be a great “lifestyle” as long as all are agreeable. You should not force anything by anyone. You should not be jealous of each other. To be able to swing you must be able to completely trust each other. Talk with each other about what it is that you each want or willing to do and expect out of the swinging lifestyle. Set rules and go by them. Do not break the rules you set for yourselves. When responding to couples by e-mail or in person always be polite and courteous. If you are not interested all you have to do is respond politely no thank you. Remember besides having sex, there can also be great friendships made from the lifestyle. Swinging?  Isn't that the same thing as cheating? Hogwash! Swinging is not cheating. If I may be so bold as to quote a very popular television psychologist, the good doctor defined "cheating" as doing something with someone else that you would not do if your spouse was standing right next to you. That could apply to a lot of things that violate the trust of a relationship. In the case of swingers this does not apply. Since the majority of swinging activities occur while the spouse is present, or at the very least approving and enthusiastic, it is not cheating. Anything you do behind your partner's back and against their wishes is betrayal of trust. Swingers eliminate lying, distrust and secrecy from their relationship. Everything that a person does in the Lifestyle is done openly, honestly and with the full consent and enthusiasm of their partner. Otherwise, even the most experienced swinger would consider it cheating. Swingers detest cheaters and do not condone cheating of any kind. Aren't Swingers all older retired people? Is there anyone young in the Lifestyle? Ah, you must watch a lot of late night cable documentaries; well if that is where you are getting your information about the Lifestyle, then it's no wonder you think that swingers are all on social security! The truth is, that the vast majority of people in the Lifestyle are young, with average ages in the 30's and 40's! Younger people usually have much greater reasons to keep their involvement in the Lifestyle a guarded secret. Younger swingers are more likely to work for an employer who might make life difficult if anyone at work ever found out. They may have parents and family that would be disapproving of their personal lives. They are also more likely to have younger children and want to be very low key about their adult activities. The reason that 99% of the swingers you see in documentaries and talk shows are older is because they no longer face the same risks as younger swingers. The older swingers who speak publicly about their lifestyle usually own there own businesses or are retired by now, so they don't fear problems at their jobs. Their parents may no longer be alive, so they don't have to fear family disapproval. Their children are all grown up and out of the house. They no longer have the same risks, so they don't care who finds out. The reality is that the majority of swingers are young, the bulk being in their 30's and 40's; and, yes, while there are swingers in their 50's and 60's, there are also tens of thousands in their 20's. So there are, literally, millions of attractive young people in the Lifestyle. And since the invention of the World-Wide-Web, the number of young people in the Lifestyle has exploded and continues to grow rapidly! You just need to know where to look. That is where SwappWatch can help. Sign up today to meet new folks to play with. Is swinging safe? Swinging is generally safer than any other form of casual sex. People in the Lifestyle typically tend to be very cautious of their safety. Many people submit to STD testing every 3 to 6 months. Almost all swingers insist on the usage of condoms during intercourse with someone other than their spouse. Simple precautions like this make the swinging lifestyle a very safe place to experiment. I'm interested in the lifestyle, but I'm frightened? Many people are fearful when they first experience the swinging lifestyle. They quickly find that swingers are regular people who simply wish to expand their horizons. The Lifestyle is very discrete, and there is no worry about running into another swinger while shopping and being outed. If you run into someone outside of a lifestyle event, they don't wish to be outed either. Typically a smile or a nod is exchanged; sometimes a conversation between friends occurs, but nothing detrimental to ones social status happens. I'm a single male, can I swing? While single males are permitted to join the group, they must be sponsored by a female or couple. Do I have to sleep with someone? Absolutely not! There are no obligations in the lifestlye. Lifestylers focus on swingers getting to know each other with their clothes on! Many events are centered around or on "vanilla" activities where any swinging would be greatly frowned upon. Swinging 101 History of the Lifestyle Research into the Lifestyle Activities of the Lifestyle Subgroups of the Lifestyle      Bisexualism      Polyamory      Singles Common responses to objections to the swinger lifestyle      Responses to practical objections      Responses to moral and philosophical objections History of the Lifestyle Historically, societies who have advocated multiple sexual partners are not uncommon. For example, royalty and nobility in several cultures had both consorts and concubines. Notably, ancient Roman culture is popularly believed to have enthusiastically accepted of orgies and alternative sexual practices. Nevertheless, though contemporary swingers may celebrate these historical ideals, the actual practice of swinging in the 20th century began differently. According to Terry Gould's The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers, swinging began among United States Air Force pilots and their wives during World War II. In this small community, the mortality rate among pilots was significantly high. Gould reports that a close bond between pilots arose, with the implication that the husbands would protect and care for all the wives as their own, both emotionally and sexually, if the husbands were away or lost (thus bearing some similarity to levirate marriage). This historical narrative is debatable, however, since it would have been highly unusual for military wives to accompany their husbands on foreign tours of duty. Other sources point to U.S. Air Force pilots stationed in the California desert as the original participants in modern swinging. Though the exact beginnings are not agreed upon, it is widely assumed that swinging began amongst American military communities in the 1950s. By the time the Korean War ended, the practice of swinging had spread from the military bases to the nearby suburbs. The media promptly dubbed the phenomenon wife-swapping. The first swingers' organization, the Sexual Freedom League, began in the 1960s in Berkeley, California, in the sexually liberal San Francisco Bay Area. Ultimately, an umbrella organization called the North American Swing Club Association (NASCA) (now NASCA International) was formed to encourage the dissemination of accurate information about swinging lifestyles across North America. Research into the Lifestyle Some subjective scientific research into swinging has been conducted in the United States since the late 1960s. One study, based on an Internet questionnaire addressed to visitors of lifestyle-related sites, found swingers are happier in their relationships as compared to the norm. 60% of swingers said that swinging improved their relationship; 1.7% said swinging made their relationship less happy. Approximately 50% of those who rated their relationship "very happy" before becoming swingers maintained their relationship had become even happier. 90% of those with less happy relationships said swinging improved them. Almost 70% of swingers claimed to have no problem with controlling jealousy; approximately 25% admitted, "I have difficulty controlling jealousy when swinging" as "somewhat true", while 6% said this was "yes, very much" true. Swingers rate themselves happier ("very happy": 59% of swingers compared to 32% of non-swingers) and their lives more "exciting" (76% of swingers compared to 54% of non-swingers) than non-swingers, by significantly large margins. There was no significant difference between the responses of men and women, although more males (70%) than females completed the survey. ABC News reporter John Stossel produced an investigative report into the lifestyle. Stossel reported that over 4 million people are swingers, according to estimates by the Kinsey Institute and other researchers. He also cited Terry Gould's research, in which Gould concluded that "couples swing in order to not cheat on their partners." When Stossel asked swinging couples whether they worry that their spouse will "find they like someone else better", one male interviewee replied, "People in the swinging community swing for a reason. They don't swing to go out and find a new wife;" while a woman interviewee asserted, "It makes women more confident -- that they are the ones in charge." Stossel interviewed twelve marriage counselors about the lifestyle. According to Stossel, "not one of them said don't do it", though some also said "getting sexual thrills outside of marriage can threaten a marriage". Nevertheless, the swingers whom Stossel interviewed claimed that "their marriages are stronger because they don't have affairs and they don't lie to each other." Activities of the Lifestyle Swinging activities may include (but are not limited to):  Exhibitionism: having sex with a partner while being watched.  Voyeurism: watching others have sex (perhaps with the above mentioned partner).  Same Room: Having sex in the same room as another couple but neither couple touches the other. Soft Swinging or Soft Swap: kissing, stroking, or having oral sex with a third or fourth person. Soft swap may be in the form of a threesome, group sex, or the literal swapping of partners. Full Swap: having penetrative sex with someone other than one's partner. Although this is the commonly understood definition of swinging, it is not necessarily the most common type. Group Sex: An all-inclusive term for activities involving multiple partners in the same vicinity. Typically, swinging activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple engages in sexual activity with another couple, multiple couples, or a single individual. These acts can occur in the same room (often called same room swinging) though different or separate room swinging does occur. On these occasions, swingers will often refer to sex as play. Subgroups of the Lifestyle Bisexuality Attitudes to same-sex activity and bisexuality vary by culture and locale, and by gender. As a rule, female bisexuality and bicuriosity are common in both traditional swinging scenes and tend to be the norm amongst participants; by contrast, male same-sex activity has a wider variation in its handling, and may be welcomed, accepted, frowned upon, or forbidden. Swing clubs and other facilities exist for gay and bisexual interests for both genders, but differ – for example bathhouses and the like for gay males, sometimes described as being "controversial" even in the gay community due to safer sex concerns, whereas women's clubs are "comparatively rare" and tend to be organized as private events, or niche clubs with high popularity for their events Polyamory Polyamory is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with full knowledge and consent by everyone involved. Poly lifestyles vary, with some being open relationships and others being polyfidelitous Singles The acceptance of singles at swinging events varies by geographic area and by event. Some swinging clubs have a policy of allowing only couples and females, but most do allow single men on selected nights. Single females are often admitted at reduced admission price. Parties and private events may differ, however, and are often restricted to couples or couples and single females only. Reasons for the restrictions against single males vary. Most (but certainly not all) of the people who participate in swinger events are male-female couples who are more interested in interacting with other couples (or with single women) than with single men. Thus, swinger events strive to achieve a balance between male and female participants or have a (usually slightly) larger number of females than males. A common complaint among swingers is that single men change the tone and nature of an event. While outright hostility towards single men is rarely prevalent, an abundance of single males is not often looked upon favorably in any swinging context. When single males are permitted, their numbers are usually limited by high entrance fees or stringent membership requirements. Common responses to objections to the swinger lifestyle Responses to practical objections Many couples enter into swinging while already in secure relationships, providing an added motivation to avoid excessive sexual health risks. While sexual affairs outside of relationships may be committed in the "heat of the moment" without regard to future consequences, most swingers maintain that sex among swingers is a much more thought-out and practical affair. Many swinging clubs in the US and UK do not have alcohol licenses and have a "bring your own beverage" (BYOB) policy. Also, it is not uncommon for experienced swingers to remain sober; these individuals may consequently state that they take a far safer approach to their sexual health than that of comparable non-monogamous singles (who would ostensibly have impaired judgment from becoming inebriated). Condoms are required at most swinging clubs and parties, unless clearly stated otherwise. In addition, a minority of swingers rely on regular STD testing to ensure their safety. A small portion of swingers alternatively focus on massage and other activities that are unlikely to transmit STDs; however, most participants in a swinging lifestyle acknowledge that they are accepting the same risks that any sexually promiscuous member of society does. Although there is a risk of pregnancy in many cases, there are ways to completely avoid the problem. Some solutions would be neutering at least one gender, or having a group with entirely menopausal women. Some also contend that even without these methods, non-permanent birth control methods are effective enough. Some believe that sexual attraction is part of human nature, and as such, it should be respected and openly enjoyed by a committed or married couple. Some swingers cite divorce data in the US, claiming that the quality (or lack of quality) of sex and spousal infidelity are significant contributing factors in divorce. One study showed that 37% of husbands and 29% of wives admit to having had at least one extramarital affair (Reinisch, 1990), and divorce rates for first marriages approached 60%. As one study asserted: According to King (1996) one of the things that normally occurs in a relationship leading to changes in how we interact with our partners is sexual habituation. At approximately three to seven years into a marriage, it begins to take increased levels of stimulation to produce the same level of sexual excitation previously obtained by a glance or a simple touch. A couple that is receptive to new and different sexual experiences will begin to explore different avenues of shared sexual fulfillment in order to continue to grow together. At this stressful point in marriages infidelity increases and the divorce rate peaks. Couples who find a way to reconnect physically and emotionally are more likely to make it through this period. Swinging may be one creative solution to the problem of habituation – it provides sexual variety, adventure, and the opportunity to live out one's fantasies as a couple without secrecy and deceit. In essence, some swinging couples maintain that by enjoying the very nature of sexuality with one's partner, a great number of marriages and relationships would be saved. Many swingers report that their core relationships are actually strengthened through swinging, and they usually claim that their sex lives are more, not less, intimate and satisfying. Jealousy can occur, but proponents of swinging assert that jealousy is mainly reported among couples whose relationships were already unstable. The effect of swinging on unstable relationships has yet to be conclusively determined. Responses to moral and philosophical objections Swingers provide a variety of responses to moral and philosophical objections. As with any group or large enough community, the depth and type of spiritual philosophies among swingers varies greatly. A common response given by swingers to moral and philosophical objections is that there is a difference between having sex and making love. Contradictorily, this is one of the main objections that religious groups have to swinging: namely, that this distinction should not exist. Swingers differentiate between fun and friendship, and the love and companionship provided by their existing relationship. Thus, though swingers may have many sexual relationships, only a single emotional relationship exists. Although many close friendships are formed within the swinging community, swingers often feel that nothing is more important to them than their relationship with their own partner. The intimate friendships formed among swingers strengthen the primary relationship, rather than damage it. Swingers often claim that the sex they have is more intimate (rather than less intimate) because they are with a partner who encourages them to fulfill their fantasies; therefore, the partner is so confident in the relationship that jealousy is not an issue. Swingers also claim that swinging makes infidelity less likely, as they know they can have sexual contact with others with their partner's consent. Various responses exist to those who object to swinging on the basis of their faith. Many swingers feel that their activities in their own homes or private clubs, simply put, are not for others to judge. Others believe that as long as they remain in love and consider their relationships to be sacred, any playing they do does not contradict the sanctity of their relationships, and is consistent with their spiritual values.